How to stop worrying and start living?

Two years ago, I wanted to kill myself. Every single second I blamed my existence. I think it started during the pandemic when school shut down and I had nowhere to go (I am not yapping, but just giving you the context). I was a straight-A student before, and eventually, when the lockdown started, I lost the seriousness, started watching web shows, became too addicted to my phone, seeing others doing better and constantly comparing myself to others, and you know what is sad? I did nothing for myself, and I didn’t know what to do. In other words, I went from a straight-A student to a couch potato and decided to purposefully rot there.

                                  Two years later which is now, I’m not a Victoria’s Secret model, but I can say I’m better. Mentally and physically better. Now I want to live, not die. So what changed? I did. And it changed everything.

            That’s exactly what I’m gonna talk about here. I know you want to be happy so bad, be comfortable, and here I’ll tell you everything that I learned, and experimented with during my toughest period. To be more precise, I’ll tell you what I should have heard back then.

 NO! I’m not here to advise you, I’ll give you just six tips that you can try doing for a week, and trust me that’s gonna help you so much just like that overpriced therapy that I took (therapies should be free or at least affordable, what do you think? I mean we are already mad and depressed and we are supposed to spend money on top of that? huh) let us just start our ‘make me happy points’

Wake up early

This might sound too common, or like ‘What does waking up early have to do with being happy?’ but waking up early is such a good way to start your day. You don’t have to set your alarm for 4 in the morning. It could be dependable on your schedule. Let’s assume your day starts at 10 in the morning, then you should at least wake up at 7. So just plan accordingly. Mornings are usually calm, so when you get up early and have that time for yourself, it will feel incredible.

 

Practice Gratitude

You heard it right. You can have a gratitude journal or grab a piece of paper, and write just 3 things you’re grateful about. Only when we start writing do we find various reasons to be grateful for. It will be nice if you are doing it either in the morning or just before bed, or both. Imagine having your cute little notebook with a pretty pen and a bunch of nice things written on it, and carrying it wherever you are going (if you won’t be in your bed for the next day, like some sleepovers), that sounds like a coquette thing for me.

Create a daily hygiene checklist

One of the hardest things to do while I’m not feeling well is to take a shower. But to feel better, I want you to do certain stuff like;

• Trim your nails and shape it. If possible paint it. There are tons of tutorials available on YouTube, who cares if it’s not perfect, just do it.
• Get a haircut if possible. If not exactly a haircut, trim your split ends at least. I hope you got a shampoo and a conditioner (or just steal your mom’s). if you have so many hair products like masks, oil, serums, etc, do everything. We are just gonna be EXTRA today.
• Doing an ‘everything shower’ which includes a body scrub, and dry brushing, is a good idea too.
• Brush your hair every single day. Even if you skip a shower, don’t skip brushing your hair. Hot girls will always turn bad hair days into glossy hair days.
• it will be wonderful if you have a consistent skincare routine. also know how to take care of your skin during summers

You can do these things according to your schedule but don’t forget to wash your body, brush your hair, brush your teeth twice, and brush your tongue every day.

Make a drink

Cooking our meals is one of the best healthy habits that we can practice which is a beautiful therapy too. But what if we are too young to handle a knife and fire, or ‘my mom makes food, I’m not supposed to intervene’? Then pick a dish for the day. It could be a breakfast smoothie, a teatime snack, or a weekly dessert. Explore recipes and have fun. You can prepare a recipe book. Pinterest is full of inspiration. And you can do some watercolor or something. Now we have two books to keep, gratitude and recipe journals.

YouTube is lit!

I remember reading something like ‘Not only food is our diet, what we read, watch, talk, whatever we practically consume is our diet.’

So instead of watching too many fictional dramas, web series, and films, I suggest you go over to youtube and find content that lifts you. And through content, It doesn’t have to be all self-help videos, instead curate your playlist into a mixture that also prioritizes entertainment. But there are certain stuff you should keep in mind before carelessly wandering through YouTube; don’t watch others’ lifestyles and appearance and feel bad about yourself, remember we are there to feel happy, not feel sabotaged. And if any means you feel those stuff while watching someone’s video, instantly hit next. And there is another tip to not feel such thoughts, that is to watch lifestyle vlogs of people who are older than you. So you won’t feel less, instead you will feel hopeful.

              Something you gotta make sure to keep a limit on whatever you are consuming online. Time is too important to waste over other people’s lives!

Talk with people

I know this is too hard especially if you are an introvert like me. But talking is such entertainment especially if the topics excite you. And you know who is the easiest and the most exciting people, mothers or siblings. If your mother is your best friend, that’s gonna make anything hard, bearable. Fathers are nice too. Okay, now if you have some issues that won’t let you talk to them, then get a friend. if not, pets! Or yourself. Talk louder to yourself, it will help you a lot.

                So girl, these are some tips that I can give you right now. Whether you adopt this or not just know that, this too shall pass. If your mental condition is really messed up, I suggest you take some professional help. Because your life is far more expensive than that therapy. Oh and from now on, we are besties. Follow me on Pinterest and Instagram so we can be closer. And don’t hesitate if you want to talk to me, my DM’s are always open.